I am on the books for surgery next Friday. I found a top robotic surgeon ( she uses the daVinci surgical robot where I used to be a sales executive and believe strongly in the technology). I am relieved to have it scheduled so soon since it can usually be a few months wait. I am also a little bit emotional about it. I can’t pinpoint exactly why but I think it is a combination of fear that they will find nothing and fear that they will find too much endo.
But, alas- that fear will be answered in less than a week. For those of you that have had a laparoscopy/ or endo surgery I would love to know how recovery was. My main question is how many days after surgery can I hold my toddler. He is very attached to me and also very heavy. The fact that I won’t be able to be the kind of Mom I always am is the only reason I am hesitant about surgery. I have promised myself from the moment he was miraculously born ( I know now how truly against the odds his arrival really is) that I won’t compromise his happiness in the pursuit of a sibling.
I also recognize that this dilemma about being a good Mom to my miracle boy is one that I am so fortunate to have. I know so many people would want this problem- want so badly to have a child in their arms. As I have said before- secondary infertility is a rough road but nothing like primary infertility.
Lots of love to you all and appreciate any insight!
Fighting Infertility 
Glad you have something on the books! It’s always a relief to have a definite date for any sort of procedure. The recovery was really rough for me, but based on the blogs it seems like I was the exception. The gas pain was terrible, but again didn’t seem so bad for others. I’m telling you, though, in case it’s rough for you so you know it’s normal. Tim had to help me to the bathroom for about three days. Lettie was with my in laws and we were at a hotel. This was ideal because I was worried Lettie would get scared seeing me in pain — if you can pull something like that off I’d definitely recommend it. I remember being pretty sore for like a week. I went back to work five days after surgery, and that was a mistake. So maybe 1-2 weeks until you can lift your son? I know you don’t want to be any less of a mom, but it’s such a short time in his life! And he will still feel your love even if you’re not lifting him. You guys can snuggle in bed together and read books and watch Curious George. Xo.
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Ok thank you love. Appreciate your insights. Thinking maybe I will need my Mom to come for a few days after the weekend recovery then. Thanks again! Xo
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I have no advice on the surgery or the recovery (I should have had it, but where I live they won’t do it and there was no way we could have afforded it in the USA). But I do want to let you know that I will be thinking of you and I am so hopeful the surgery finds and fixes the issue! And I echo theskyandback, this won’t make you a bad mother and he will feel your love! And, there are lots of ways to interact with him, you may just have to be creative and a little less active then you are used to. But you’ve got this, it will be okay!
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Thank you sweet friend. Hope you are getting some rest and reprieve.
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I’m so glad it’s scheduled quickly. Understandable to be nervous/scared but it sounds like you’ve found a great team to do the task.
I am a nurse for kids and for our lap surgeries we usually say no strenuous activity or heavy lifting for at least 4 weeks. But I do not have experience with your particular surgery so I cannot comment fully, just give a general guideline. I’m sure they will give you great aftercare instructions and I would also consider calling and asking before the procedure so you can have a plan in mind.
I wish you all the best with this surgery and whatever it may bring. You are in my thoughts!!
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Great advice. I will do that. Thank you!!
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I was one of the lucky ones who didn’t find it so bad. I was warned it would be horrible so maybe my expectation was that it would be worse? I think the pain s associated with how much endo is removed so if you have an extensive case it will be worse. I had Monkey stay with Eric for a few days so I could slum it on the couch and was fine on my own. Once he returned we did cuddles on the couch for our time together. Glad you have a surgery date so soon. Hope it all goes smoothly xxx
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Ok great! Hopefully I follow in your footsteps 🙂
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I am glad you have it planned so soon. I will be thinking about you! I am so praying for an answer and a baby for you! Xx
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I didn’t have a lap. The one I had was the kind that is like a c-section so recovery was much longer. Just wanted to tell you that I’d be thinking of you. So glad that you could schedule it so quickly. As you said, most of the time it’d take a while before you could be scheduled. I hope that this will solve the problem that you have. ❤
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No insight or advice but I want you to know I will be thinking of you and wishing you a speedy recovery. So glad you do not have a lengthy wait, this is a big step forward. xox
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Thank you!
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My lap surgery I had was really tough (to remove my tube) but then again that might have been bc I was still pregnant too (heterotopic pregnancy). So i couldnt take any relief meds, or anything. Going to the bathroom was the worst. It was only bad for about 3 days. Im hoping yours will be smooth sailing, but if its not know it will end soon enough!
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You are amazing. What you went through for your little one is incredible. Xo
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I was supposed to have my tubes removed but they were too attached to everything. My lap just ended up being sort of exploratory, nothing removed. My recovery was pretty quick. I did start trying to do too much after a couple of days and paid for it. I was very tired and worn out. The pain wasn’t too bad, my body just needed rest to recover. This was pre baby so I didn’t have anyone who wanted to be picked up. Good luck!
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Ok-thanks for your insight. Hope you are doing well. Xo
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So great that you were able to get scheduled in so quickly. I hope that it makes a big difference for you, and that you’re able to finally grow your family very soon. Hang in there, you’re an amazing woman and I know you’ll do great!
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Thank you so much- really nic!
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I’ve had it twice (once through my belly button and once through two keyhole incisions) and both times it wasn’t too bad. I never had a toddler to lift so can’t comment on that. I did have Dog the second time round and I think everything was fine with him. I actually got two weeks off work but that was more because my doctor was nice. I think I had a few days on the couch but again that was more my laziness! I really don’t remember it hurting very much. Wishing you lots of luck. Xx
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Thank you! This makes me feel better. Hope you and little one are doing great 🙂
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I remember the gas poison bring the worst of it for at least a few days, but otherwise no pain from the procedure itself. I was able to hold my son after 2 days or so. Good luck to you my friend!
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*gas pain, not poison * (Freudian slip?)
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Ha- so funny. Really great to hear. Thank you so much.
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I’m happy to hear you’ll be able to get it done soon. My surgeries were both on Fridays. The 1st one was definitely the hardest recovery because they were in there for quite awhile because I had stage IV Endo. The pain in my shoulder blades the first couple days from the gas was definitely the worst. My Mom came and helped with daycare that Monday, but after that, I was back to work as normal. The 2nd time I had surgery, recovery was much easier and I was back to work on my own on Monday. Praying all goes smoothly and you’ll get some answers!
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Thank you! That is great to hear!
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