I am currently mid- Stims with my final own egg cycle but just signed the contract for our egg donor. Sounds a little strange to take that leap when I still have this Hail Mary but there were a few reasons to pull the trigger. One- even a positive pregnancy test does not mean a baby at this point. I know that all too well. So do I wait for 6,9,or even 12 weeks assuming I am even able to get a positive pregnancy test? I can only imagine the devastation after all that time and then having to start the donor process from scratch. The process takes a minimum of 3 months if you find a donor right away (almost impossible) and I am just ready to be done with this IF hell. But the second and more important reason is we found our donor! It is extremely hard to find someone who meets my four main requirements (full of joy and optimism, attractive, athletic and smart– this is a longer separate post) and the fact that we found one that seems amazing and looks exactly like me (well prettier if I am honest) and lives in our area is near impossible. She also happens to be my blood type which is crazy. I did not want to let her go so we signed the contract this week and will begin the process. The way we see it is absolutely worst/ best case scenario is I miraculously get pregnant and it actually brings a baby and we have her embryos for more children afterwards. I have said before I just want to have a family regardless of genetics and the more the merrier.
I am so relieved that the pressure is off this last own egg cycle. I feel a sense of peace and hope and light I haven’t felt in a while. I am even drinking the occasional caffeine and alcohol because let’s face it- my strict regime has not achieved the goal.
I understand that the donor process can get complicated and there is no guarantee. I get that. But it also is a path that holds a whole lot more hope for us then these last 9 IVF cycles.
So onward and upward we go. Thinking of all of you. Especially those in the middle of a wait or still trying to pin down a plan. Hope the road ahead gets easier soon.
xo
My Perfect Breakdown said:
This is awesome!!! I am thrilled that you found your donor! And I love your approach, both paths at the same time. Wishing you the absolute best!!!!
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mamajo23 said:
Thank you beautiful friend!
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Isabelle said:
Yay! So happy for you. It’s so nice to be able to find someone that meets your criteria and is available. Here is to more babies in your family!
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mamajo23 said:
Thank you! Super inspired by your amazing embryo results!
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Surviving Infertility said:
I really admire your strength and ability to always see the silver lining. Im so happy you found a good match. Prayers this cycle brings you a bundle of joy.
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mamajo23 said:
Thank you so much! How are you doing?
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Surviving Infertility said:
I am hanging in there. Happy for every day we get closer to being full term. Thank u so much for asking!
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theskyandback said:
Yesssssss! This is awesome. I am so excited or you. I love that you are pursuing both at once. Really takes the pressure off either one. I definitely want to read more about choosing a donor and your thought process if you feel like sharing sometime. I find it really interesting! Hooray for hope and light!
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mamajo23 said:
Thank you!! Just wrote about it xoxo
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LG&LG said:
I love that the pressure is off. As it should be. Good luck with both routes!
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stealingnectar said:
I am so glad you found a donor quickly! I will hope for a miracle this cycle but I am also thrilled you have the other pieces in motion. We always wanted to adopt, but starting the adoption felt that way for us…just getting everything started so we didn’t have to wait for just one process (as we’d already been waiting a long time). Congrats! She sounds amazing!
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mamajo23 said:
Thank you! Glad those boobs of yours are ultimately doing what you need them to do 🙂
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stealingnectar said:
Ha! Me too! 🙂 So excited to hear your next step.
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myrainbowdream said:
Yay! This is such a great way of doing things, regardless of the outcome of your current cycle you have a plan moving forward.
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mamajo23 said:
Thank you!! Definitely my hope.
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Nara said:
Great news! I’m hoping stims go brilliantly for you anyway and we hear your good news very soon. Xx
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EmilyMaine said:
Wow, the perfect donor so quickly. That is incredible and eerily meant to be it seems. Very happy for you.
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ourgreatestdesire said:
I’m so happy you found the perfect donor for you! Congrats!!! 🙂
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mamajo23 said:
Thank you!!
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